EP10: How to Ask Good Questions

About This Episode
In Episode 10 of The YDisciple Podcast, hosts Annie Grandell and Pete Burds dive into the art and importance of asking great questions in ministry—and in life.

Drawing from personal stories, scripture, and years of ministry experience, Pete and Annie explore how questions build trust, foster authentic relationships, and create space for transformation. They reflect on Jesus’ own ministry, noting that while He was asked hundreds of questions, He rarely answered directly—instead inviting deeper reflection through questions of His own.

The conversation unpacks why many ministry leaders are trained to give answers but not to ask questions, and how that imbalance can limit connection with young people. Pete and Annie discuss practical ways to ask better questions—from simple “cafeteria questions” that warm up conversation to deeper “living room questions” that invite vulnerability and growth.

They also address common pitfalls: moving too fast, asking questions that shut conversation down, or missing moments of vulnerability because of a desire to control the discussion. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to adopt a posture of curiosity rooted in confidence, empathy, and reverence for human dignity.

This episode is a practical and spiritual guide for anyone who walks with young people—youth ministers, catechists, volunteers, teachers, and parents—who wants to cultivate deeper conversations and help others feel truly seen, heard, and loved.

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Reflection for This Week

Ask yourself:

• Do I tend to lead with answers or with curiosity?
• Where might I be moving too fast instead of staying with someone’s story?
• What’s one place this week where I can pause and ask one more question before responding?

As you pray this week, ask Jesus to help you see others as He does—and to trust the power of asking, listening, and accompanying.